Partners..Happiness..Options

Partners…..Happiness….Options

For those of us who are married , happily or otherwise,  seldom do we  think that we are part of this happiness or unhappiness?  Or that in a marriage equation , we are as  guilty as our partners for our unhappiness and as responsible for our  real or maybe unreal happiness!

Just like when we play we play to win but this relationship is not one of up- manship. It is not even a game.! This relationship is about each other , of family , of children ! So let us stop playing but let us enjoy the ride, the company !!!

Our husbands are not the enemies, or are they ! No,  husbands and wives are teams   , partners!

Husbands and wives complement each other, when one is down , the other is up ha ha ha like a seesaw but a seesaw comes down after a while and that is how the relationship works.

This time the wife is up , she nags and nags, the husband chills out , hear her out and let it pass. Then the husband ef’s up, the wife  is there  to support and stand by him…I am talking about some other things here not effing up as in shacking up with another woman …infidelity has no place in the marriage and yet it happens.. men and women alike wander  away, get in that situation and most of the times succumbs to that temptation. But hey, if the will is strong, infidelity has no hold , if the commitment is there  .

Happiness in marriage is a shared responsibility, a shared  experience…marriage is a commitment.. just like being happy in a marriage is a decision.

What do you do if you are no longer happy in a marriage.. is leaving the first or the only option? 

Maybe you can ask yourself first? Why are you no longer happy? Is the love gone? No way to rekindle the love? Or maybe you just need  more romance? Maybe it’s just the romance?

When one is no longer happy  it does not mean , one can not be happy again in the marriage? Maybe a little work on the romance department is needed ? Maybe  love is not gone , just dormant  and a little fire might be enough to awaken the passion….

But whatever it is, unhappiness in a marriage does not always mean  parting ways,  separation  is not the first option  but  remember  it is an option ..  when love is no longer there, when  respect and caring has flown away and happiness can not be rekindled , the wife or the husband can start checking out his or her options….  factor in the children, if there are. After all  a marriage maybe between a husband and a wife but in between , the children…..  

But life is not black and white , what works for me might not work for you or it might...but whatever it is...our decisions make our lives go on and on and on....the sooner we make our decisions , the sooner we can start over again...