It is a sad and shocking moment when you realize that the
people around you can be so hostile and mean. When their “inggit” gets the better of them.
Why else would they be hostile and mean to somebody? They veil their
hostility though jokes that are meant to embarrass you, put you on a spot? And
yet they get to laugh with you?
Sometimes , a joke in poor taste is as good as an insult.
People know this and they use this as their weapon, hiding behind a joke,
hiding with the thought that it would be hard to censure them since it is
“supposedly” a joke, so chill”.
Pathetic…people know when they are being insulted, people feel when they
are being attacked.. when hostility is directed to them….and yes, many just
take it with a grain of salt, to keep the peace ..fearful that a reaction from them would only make the
situation more tense.. worst the hostile
party can turn the table on them and expose the aggrieved to more hostility…
Have you been in this situation? Feeling that the hostile
joke is directed at you…to make you
squirm and uncomfortable and angry and
yet confused whether to retaliate or keep silent? Are you put in a situation
when you feel attacked and yet helpless? Have you felt daggers and arrows
whizzing pass you and you are petrified?
People sometimes can really be mean , really hostile, and much as we would
like to punch and kick them.. it would be better to manage that anger, that instinct to hit back . But we have to manage
our anger so that anger will not become
a poison , poisoning our peace, poisoning our physical well being!
Bullying does not happen only in schools, in offices
bullying does exist ! And bullying is not
done to “weak, timid, geeky, or poor kids/adults alone. Sometimes, even some one with a strong
personality is bullied by way of hostile jokes….you can be the highest paying,
the prettier, the more intelligent or vice versa but you can also be bullied.
Hostile and insulting jokes is a form of bullying. There are people who really
tests you, they will deliberately push you buttons to see how you react . They think they have
exposed your weakness when you retaliate , when you grow confused and get angry
and you pushed back…when you push back they will jump at that opportunity and spread that lies that
you have lost your composure….
We can bear it and grin or push a little , fight back the
way they do it to you? But are we better for it? Maybe we can take it in stride, forgive them
right there and then and try to forget.
If this hostility continues to eat us up, then it becomes a
poison , a poison we use to slowly stress ourselves…we have to let go..we have
to see the best in us ….and maybe savor the thought that this poor guy is so
bitter with his life , that bitterness comes through in the form of hostility
!! ha ha ha!!!!
A deep breath, a grin and a sigh may help us during those
bashing time…… then we move forward …….
Let us savor our life the way it should be, no bitterness
and no resistance , we flow like
water…….soar like an eagle!!! Let us let go!!!
