You know it is not about you? Do
you Well, I don’t. I mope around , feeling rejected, feeling isolated and
feeling unwanted.
Why are people mean? Why do
people become mean? Is it out of bitterness?
I have seen people who use to be
good , who use to be considerate, who use to be true ..people who used to be
fair become puppets on strings ….just going around with the flow , just letting
people manipulate them? Being like the Queenbee ,the meany Why ?because they
become hostages of some kind of power ? Do they get used to being mean by being
with people who can make them mean because she hold the purse strings?
Do people become mean or it is
the true colors shining through when they get the chance ? When being mean is
supported by a few or maybe more?
Is this even true ? That people
are really mean , they hide it but when being mean is accepted, they show their
true colors?
Do we ask ourselves why people
get isolated? Is this their choice? It is easy to see if isolation is a choice
but what if isolation is an imposed sanction, sanction to those wo are
different from them , different
according to their perception….colored by some kind of bias, trauma,
upbringing, bitterness, insecurity, jealousy or just plain “I don’t like you”
syndrome?
What brings about this “I don’t
like you syndrome”….are you obnoxious? Are you boastful ?are you mean and
unfriendly and inconsiderate , are you an abomination , deserving to be
isolated? Do you have an attitude so bad that you are not liked, not
respected? Is it really about you? In more instances than not, no, it is about
them..but how do you know…how do you fight this isolation ,how do you stand
firm, stand smiling and being happy when your spirit feels crushed…… when your
heart is broken ,when you question how is it I am not liked, not respected
..why is their perception of you like that or is it your perception…..you know
you try to be fair, friendly , you get
on their jokes and idiosyncrasies and
yet they won’t give you the time of day when you try to be you. You try to be more accepting of
their flaws and yet they try not to accept the flaws you have…..
They make the effort not to like
you and teaches others to do the same to..all for what? Wicked….wicked…what else can you say
…wickednesss is when you undermine somebody for whatever reason..you undermine
somebody when you do not like her to shine and succeed…when you put hindrances
on her path …when you make people turn against somebody because you hold the
power …but come to think of it, maybe they do not need “turning”. Maybe just
like you they are wicked and they found an atmosphere where they can be wicked
and they prey on somebody so unlike you, so unlike them that the person becomes
an easy target…
Why do people do not like anybody
who are unlike them? In this age and time, bigotry is as present as it was 3000
years ago….the only difference is , it is hidden and I hope not flourishing…..
But the Lord strengthens those who
wait…..and He is close to the brokenhearted and he saves those whose spirits
have been crushed…
When we hide behind the smiles
and yet undermines the people we let that ugly side of humanity wins..we
let bigotry and wickedness become the
order of the day….we may be kind to people who are similar to us, kind to
people who we like and yet we are mean and wicked with people we do not like
..when we are like that, what then are we, kind ? selectively kind?
Kindness is for everybody, you
are not kind if you are kind only to ……and unkind to others? We justify this, with the thought that we are
kind to our families ,we are charitable to them because they are our families ,
they are our friends and when somebody is not our family, not our friend, not
within our inner group, not in our sphere, we can be unkind? We can be
wicked?we can be biased? We can be rude, inconsiderate?
If we believe we are kind, let us
examine ourselves, let us see to whom are we kind, do we select people we will
be kind to?
My hope is that people can be
kind , kind to himself, to others to everybody …..let us not measure our
kindness against whether they are our friends , they are like us…..try
measuring your kindness when dealing with people so unlike you, with people who
we do not like …maybe that is real kindness…maybe that is the kindness the
world needs now..the kindness that makes
humanity shine through….
